This Is A Tough Job To Fill… — Happy Father’s Day!

POSITION: Father (also known as Daddy, Dad, Pop)

JOB DESCRIPTION: Long-term, team players needed, for challenging permanent work in an often chaotic environment. Candidate must possess excellent communication and organizational skills and be willing to work variable hours, which will include evenings and weekends and frequent 24-hour shifts on call. Some overnight travel required.

LENGTH OF JOB: The rest of your life.

POSSIBILITY FOR ADVANCEMENT & PROMOTION: Not much until Grandparent position opens up.

PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE: None required. On-the-job training mandatory.

SKILLS:

  • Ability to fix any broken toy
  • Bug Catcher
  • Doctor
  • Chef
  • Chauffeur
  • Teacher
  • Principal
  • Finder of lost objects
  • Master pancake maker
  • Clown

BENEFITS: No paid holidays. Available benefits include lifelong opportunities for personal growth, unconditional love, and occasional hugs.

These are only a few reasons to celebrate all the men we know and love who are great fathers!

Happy Father’s Day!
Gino Pezzani

Failure is not the Same as Quitting, and Change is Not the Same As Failure

I consider myself to be fairly successful in life. I’ve worked hard, I’ve been smart, and I’ve pushed through when the going got tough. I know that success is not always a straight road and that along the way, there can be unexpected changes.

Three months ago, none of us would have guessed the extent to which all our lives have changed and reorganized. I still believe that success occurs when we learn something different and do something different.

Sure, I know that sometimes there are detours… but we need to keep going towards our destination, rather than turning back or quitting. I believe that failing at something is merely a setback, and that failing is not the same as quitting!

You might be familiar with the quote by Thomas Edison, inventor of the light bulb, who said: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

I think one of the greatest gifts we can give our friends and family members, including children, is the capacity to publicly endure difficult change. They witness our strength to persevere, so they aren’t allowed to quit… and they begin to recognize the capacity for resilience within themselves.

As I look back on the first half of 2020, I am satisfied that I’ve succeeded overall, but recognize that I’ve also failed a few times. I’ve learned things I didn’t know before and am a better person–and a better resource for you.

These Are Fighting Words

Rocky Marciano was one of the toughest fighters we have ever seen. He ended his career undefeated, but he didn’t end his career without being hit hard and knocked down. He won 49 fights. He was knocked down twice. He was powerful. He was relentless. He was a dominant force of nature. He was also unpredictable in a sport that demands unpredictability to succeed.

I’m going to be very honest with you: March and April felt a little like fighting Rocky Marciano; it was a bit hard for me. I don’t mind telling you that because I think it is important to admit when things are challenging. The real measure of character is revealed by asking: what do we do when we’re challenged?

Typically, I’d say that I try to rise to the occasion and come up with a plan for how I’m going to forge ahead. However, given the uncertainty we’ve all been feeling, I think that we all need to pause, reflect and get back up.

Why Pause, Reflect and Get Back Up?

For that … we need Rocky Marciano again. After one of his two knockdowns, he said, “I was on my face. I heard the count from one to 10. I kept telling myself that I had to get up, but I couldn’t move. I couldn’t make myself move. It was the strangest feeling.” He paused, he felt the feeling of getting knocked down and then he got back up.

During these last few months, as many of us shifted our lives to working from home, schooling from home, eating at home, playing at home and we started with a plan. Most of those plans changed quickly and then quickly changed again. And then something wonderful happened. We pressed pause and got back up and many of us learned to live in the moment.

We started to improvise, substitute, innovate and adapt. We cooked with ingredients on hand. We stayed home and tried to flatten the curve. Life is noticeably slower in a surprisingly pleasant way.

So, when our opponent is tough, we get tougher and I remember to let my plans go and adapt to become stronger than my opponent, which I realize is often myself. This is what it means to be resilient. And perhaps it is resiliency that is the most important as we get up and continue on.

Are You Taking Care Of Yourself?

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” – Maya Angelou

We are living in a time when other people need our help. As demands increase on your time, energy and resources, I’m wondering are you also taking the time to tend to yourself?

“Taking care of myself doesn’t mean ‘me first.’ It means ‘me, too.” – L.R. Knost

Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, it’s something we very often overlook.

Now more than ever, good self-care is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It’s also essential to a good relationship with oneself and others.

Self-care means knowing who you are and having an awareness of your limits.

Self-care means recognizing when you are doing more than you are used to, and trying to figure out the best way to maintain your well-being so you can continue to be a resource for the people you care about.

During times like this, it is important we remain connected with the people who matter most. If there is any way I can help you, please let me know. I will make time to provide my skills and expertise to you in the best way possible. Or we can just connect.

Little Green Frogs

A few years ago, I agreed to give my nephew a ride home from a camping trip when my sister’s car suddenly landed in the shop. Normally, I’m happy to help out with a ride or a favor for friends and family, but I’d slated that particular Sunday afternoon for doing some work around the yard and was secretly a bit grumpy at having to step away from my peaceful day outside. The last of the heavy snows had left the ground soggy, but all the signs of Spring were in the air and I genuinely wanted to enjoy a quiet afternoon in the solitude of nature.

When I got to the campground, I had to park a ways off from where my nephew and their group had set up their encampment. As I walked over to their site, I heard the rushing of water and loud, boyish voices. I approached them and asked what they were doing at the creek. Excitedly, they all clamored about a huge group of frogs that they had found, little ones, hopping all over the place in the cool afternoon by the water. Mind you, these are kids who are being raised in the age of technology- every one of those boys had a phone or an iPad in camp. Yet, they were all hopping around the rocks by the creek (not unlike the frogs) like the very image of Spring: fresh, free, full of joy.

I was suddenly and overwhelmingly grateful that I’d stepped away from my yard and my expectations of a serious day spent in nature— there it was, right in front of me in the form of a handful of little, green frogs and a whole lot of laughter.

Wasn’t I lucky to have that afternoon?

This March, I hope you find some luck of your own in suddenly having Spring thrust upon you when you least expect it. It is the month of green popping up all over, of leprechauns on greeting cards… but it is also a month of little, green frogs and the joy of youth laughing at a creek and creating memories to last a lifetime.

Best of luck to you!