Are You Taking Care Of Yourself?

“As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” – Maya Angelou

We are living in a time when other people need our help. As demands increase on your time, energy and resources, I’m wondering are you also taking the time to tend to yourself?

“Taking care of myself doesn’t mean ‘me first.’ It means ‘me, too.” – L.R. Knost

Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, it’s something we very often overlook.

Now more than ever, good self-care is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It’s also essential to a good relationship with oneself and others.

Self-care means knowing who you are and having an awareness of your limits.

Self-care means recognizing when you are doing more than you are used to, and trying to figure out the best way to maintain your well-being so you can continue to be a resource for the people you care about.

During times like this, it is important we remain connected with the people who matter most. If there is any way I can help you, please let me know. I will make time to provide my skills and expertise to you in the best way possible. Or we can just connect.

Little Green Frogs

A few years ago, I agreed to give my nephew a ride home from a camping trip when my sister’s car suddenly landed in the shop. Normally, I’m happy to help out with a ride or a favor for friends and family, but I’d slated that particular Sunday afternoon for doing some work around the yard and was secretly a bit grumpy at having to step away from my peaceful day outside. The last of the heavy snows had left the ground soggy, but all the signs of Spring were in the air and I genuinely wanted to enjoy a quiet afternoon in the solitude of nature.

When I got to the campground, I had to park a ways off from where my nephew and their group had set up their encampment. As I walked over to their site, I heard the rushing of water and loud, boyish voices. I approached them and asked what they were doing at the creek. Excitedly, they all clamored about a huge group of frogs that they had found, little ones, hopping all over the place in the cool afternoon by the water. Mind you, these are kids who are being raised in the age of technology- every one of those boys had a phone or an iPad in camp. Yet, they were all hopping around the rocks by the creek (not unlike the frogs) like the very image of Spring: fresh, free, full of joy.

I was suddenly and overwhelmingly grateful that I’d stepped away from my yard and my expectations of a serious day spent in nature— there it was, right in front of me in the form of a handful of little, green frogs and a whole lot of laughter.

Wasn’t I lucky to have that afternoon?

This March, I hope you find some luck of your own in suddenly having Spring thrust upon you when you least expect it. It is the month of green popping up all over, of leprechauns on greeting cards… but it is also a month of little, green frogs and the joy of youth laughing at a creek and creating memories to last a lifetime.

Best of luck to you!


What Are The 3 Most Important Words On Valentine’s Day?

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year that we specifically set aside to celebrate love. Have a beautiful day with all the people you love!

I wonder how many ways do you have to say, “I Love You”?

Here are 11 different ways to say it and build a strong, connected and committed relationship:

  • I thank you.
  • Please forgive me.
  • I trust you.
  • Let me help.
  • I believe you.
  • I forgive you.
  • Yes, you’re right.
  • I’m so sorry.
  • Count on me.
  • I understand you.
  • Go for it!
  • And of course:
  • I love you.

Do You Know Someone Facing A Setback?

Setbacks are a part of life. The next time you’re facing a setback, here are a few stories about people who used a setback as a set-up for a comeback:

Lucille Ball: She began studying to become an actress in 1927 and was told by the head instructor of the John Murray Anderson Drama School, “Try any other profession. Any other profession.”

Clint Eastwood and Burt Reynolds: In 1959, a Universal Pictures executive dismissed them at the same meeting with the following statements. To Burt Reynolds: “You have no talent.” To Clint Eastwood: “You have a chip on your tooth, your Adam’s apple sticks out too far, and you talk too slow.”

Alexander Graham Bell:  When he invented the telephone in 1876, it didn’t ring off the hook with calls from potential backers. After making a demonstration call, President Rutherford Hayes said, “That’s an amazing invention, but who would ever want to use one of them?”

Chester Carlson:  In the 1940’s, this young inventor took his idea to 20 corporations, including some of the biggest in the country. They all turned him down. In 1947 – after seven long years of rejections – he finally got a tiny company in Rochester, NY, the Haloid Company, to purchase the rights to his electrostatic paper-copying process. Haloid became Xerox corporation, and both it and Carlson became very rich.

Abraham Lincoln:  He entered the Blackhawk War (1831-1832) as a captain. By the end of the war, he had been demoted to the rank of private.

J.K. Rowling: Author of the Harry Potter series, Joanne was an aspiring writer and single mother living on welfare with her young daughter in an unheated, mice-infested flat. Her first book was rejected by 12 publishers before the world met Harry Potter in 1997.

And then there was the young man who submitted a paper to his Yale University management professor and got this response: “The concept is interesting and well-formed, but in order to earn better than a ‘C,’ the idea must be feasible.” The young man was Fred Smith, his paper proposed reliable overnight delivery service, and Fred went on to found FedEx Corp.

January is a wonderful time to remember that success, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. We have been irreversibly impacted by each of these people because they knew that failure is not the act of falling down… but it’s staying down…. and that is something they did NOT do!

Solving The Problems of The Universe in Your Spare Time

Did you know that Albert Einstein worked a day job and had enough time to solve the problems of the Universe? Most folks would have thought that Einstein was wasting his time, but he saw it differently.

Albert Einstein worked a day job—eight hours a day, six days a week—as an examiner in the patent office in Bern, Switzerland. He liked having a regular payday, and at night he walked around with friends and talked about physics. So it was in his spare time that Einstein defined the laws of physics. And that’s part of why the world still loves him so. Even after he wrote and published four historic papers during his “miracle year,” he continued as an employee at the patent office.

As a matter of fact, Einstein’s job at the patent office might have helped him, since if he had been in the academic world, his ideas might have been squelched by the professors in power. Would they have listened to a young guy who believed that space and time were not absolute? His job probably also kept his mind sharp, because he was constantly called upon to evaluate people’s inventions. This required him to use his powers of visualization and to use specifications and drawings to test the ideas out.

Einstein wrote: “Working on the final formulation of technological patents was a veritable blessing for me. It enforced many-sided thinking and also provided important stimuli to physical thought.”

Even though he worked a full-time job, he still had time to do what he loved most and make his greatest contributions.

Time is the great equalizer – we all get 24 hours a day – no matter how old we are, where we live, or how much money we make. This story challenges the idea of what is a waste of time. If Einstein could solve the problems of the Universe in his spare time, imagine what is possible if we could all align our time and purpose.